Slide background EQUIPPING SINGLES AND STEPFAMILIES FOR LIFE

We are not just professionals; everyone on our staff has personally experienced the dynamics of single-parenting and stepfamily life.

Are you a single parent?

Are you considering remarriage?

Are you a member of a stepfamily?

Are you a pastor or Christian leader?

SINGLE ADULTS MAKE UP NEARLY 40% OF THE GENERAL POPULATION

The current generation of singles, more than any past generation, is involved in what social experts call “serial monogamy.”

Divorce is intensely stressful.

They want to be reassured that things will be okay.

They are afraid to ask important questions.

Every year, one million American children will watch Mom or Dad remarry or cohabit.

WHAT DO CHILDREN WANT THEIR PARENT TO KNOW?

They feel left out, frightened and confused.

Welcome to InStep Ministries!

We are a faith-based nonprofit dedicated to providing Biblical, affordable counseling and resources. We exist to help people experience healthy, life-giving relationships with God, themselves and others.


Characteristics of a Healthy Family

  • They communicate and listen.
  • Rules and expectations are clearly articulated.
  • They affirm and support each other.
  • Children are enjoyed.
  • They teach respect for others.
  • Feelings are considered valid and useful.
  • Responsibility and accountability are emphasized.
  • They have a shared religious core.

Traits of a healthy stepfamily

  • The stepparent role is well-defined
  • Children feel safe and centered
  • A healthy parenting role is in place
  • Individual needs are valued and met
  • Insider/outsider issues are being addressed
  • Movement between families is fluid
  • Issues around grief and loss have been addressed
  • Old traditions are honored as new traditions are being created
  • The marriage relationship is nurtured
  • The family has a strong spiritual dimension emphasizing grace, love and acceptance

Healthy Relationships

God designed you for relationships. He wants those relationships to reflect His character and the life He desires for you- love, joy, peace, compassion, faithfulness, mercy, trust, hope and grace. God also designed you for community, a place to be nurtured and equipped to fulfill His call for your life. Healthy, authentic relationships happen best in the context of community. You cannot be part of a healthy relationship if you are not spiritually, relationally and emotionally healthy. God is for you and He is a God of second chances. He looks far more at where you are and where you are going than where you have been.

Ways to become a healthy single

  • Live life in the present
  • Embrace and resolve issues from the past
  • Learn to effectively express your feelings and needs
  • Identify and address unhealthy behavior or relationship patterns
  • Develop healthy boundaries, especially around sexuality
  • Become an active part of a spiritual community
  • Commit to being accountable for your actions and attitudes
  • Actively build five-facet friendships
  • Seek to follow Jesus well