We are not just professionals; everyone on our staff has personally experienced the dynamics of single-parenting and stepfamily life.
Are you a single parent?
Are you considering remarriage?
Are you a member of a stepfamily?
Are you a pastor or Christian leader?
SINGLE ADULTS MAKE UP NEARLY 40% OF THE GENERAL POPULATION
The current generation of singles, more than any past generation, is involved in what social experts call “serial monogamy.”
Divorce is intensely stressful.
They want to be reassured that things will be okay.
They are afraid to ask important questions.
Every year, one million American children will watch Mom or Dad remarry or cohabit.
WHAT DO CHILDREN WANT THEIR PARENT TO KNOW?
They feel left out, frightened and confused.
Welcome to InStep Ministries!
We are a faith-based nonprofit dedicated to providing Biblical, affordable counseling and resources. We exist to help people experience healthy, life-giving relationships with God, themselves and others.
Characteristics of a Healthy Family
They communicate and listen.
Rules and expectations are clearly articulated.
They affirm and support each other.
Children are enjoyed.
They teach respect for others.
Feelings are considered valid and useful.
Responsibility and accountability are emphasized.
They have a shared religious core.
Traits of a healthy stepfamily
The stepparent role is well-defined
Children feel safe and centered
A healthy parenting role is in place
Individual needs are valued and met
Insider/outsider issues are being addressed
Movement between families is fluid
Issues around grief and loss have been addressed
Old traditions are honored as new traditions are being created
The marriage relationship is nurtured
The family has a strong spiritual dimension emphasizing grace, love and acceptance
God designed you for relationships. He wants those relationships to reflect His character and the life He desires for you- love, joy, peace, compassion, faithfulness, mercy, trust, hope and grace. God also designed you for community, a place to be nurtured and equipped to fulfill His call for your life. Healthy, authentic relationships happen best in the context of community. You cannot be part of a healthy relationship if you are not spiritually, relationally and emotionally healthy. God is for you and He is a God of second chances. He looks far more at where you are and where you are going than where you have been.
Ways to become a healthy single
Live life in the present
Embrace and resolve issues from the past
Learn to effectively express your feelings and needs
Identify and address unhealthy behavior or relationship patterns
Develop healthy boundaries, especially around sexuality
Become an active part of a spiritual community
Commit to being accountable for your actions and attitudes
Actively build five-facet friendships
Seek to follow Jesus well
Jeff L. Parziale, Ph.D., M.Div. and Judi Babcock-Parziale, Ph.D.
HNS Life Center
1511 E. 11 St.
Loveland, CO 80537